STOP SEARCHING FOR another perfect new self-care routine
figure out what you *actually* need
13 questions. Under 10 minutes.
You'll walk away knowing your most pressing unmet need + what to do about it.
Hey there.
You're exhausted. It feels like figuring out what you need is another thing at the bottom of a very long list. You have been waiting for somebody else to figure it out for you, and believing the lie that if you're really, really good, somebody else will.
Underneath it all you're afraid that not having your needs met means you might not be worthy of what you ache for, and that fear keeps you in the place of striving. That fear keeps you in the place of over-functioning. That fear keeps you believing that getting your needs met and living your most alive, radiant, true life is possible for everyone else but you.
I hate to break it to you, but your needs are not something you can earn.
You are worthy of getting your needs met right now, without self-sacrifice, without over-functioning, without being perfect, without doing everything for everyone around you.
Real talk: the only person who can really give that to you is you.
BUT I'm here to help by pointing you in the right direction and giving you my best practices and resources to help tending to your needs in a real way that is guaranteed to deeply nourish you.
This quiz is for you if...
This quiz is for you if you've been running on empty long enough that it's started to feel normal. If you know something's off but you can't put your finger on what or if you know exactly what you need and can't seem to make yourself do it, or you know but you're afraid of what asking will cost you.
It's for the oldest daughters, the over-givers, the people pleasers, and anyone who has gotten very good at taking care of everyone except themselves. If you've tried the morning routines, the planners, the baths, and concluded the problem is you, this quiz is ESPECIALLY for you. The problem was never you. You just didn't have the right starting point.
What you get...
YOUR NEED, NAMED
A clear picture of what's most depleted right now, so you stop circling the same exhaustion wondering why nothing ever seems to help.
PRACTICES THAT *ACTUALLY* WORK
A workbook of micro-practices matched specifically to your result. Not generic self-care advice. My best practices + rituals for your need, specifically.
A SECRET PODCAST
Each result unlocks an episode of my private podcast made just for YOUR need. These audios share a deeper understanding of your needs + what is POSSIBLE for you.
THE WHOLE LIBRARY
Needs change. You get the full library of practices for all five needs, not just today's. Come back to this powerful resource whenever your needs shift.
I didn't realize how long I'd been running on empty until this quiz named exactly what I was missing. The podcast episode that came with my result felt like it was made for me.
- Kate M.
I've tried a lot of self-care that fell flat. It was nice and all, but I was still so exhausted. Mara's quiz gave me a practice I could actually use the same day, and it helped me feel SO MUCH BETTER.
- Sarah
Hey there. I'm Mara.
she/her
I used to be able to recite everyone else's needs by heart and go completely blank on my own. I know what it costs to be everyone's person. I also know what it feels like to finally come home to yourself, and that it starts, always, with knowing what you actually need.
I know this place because I have been there. Working in a fit of fury and exhaustion. Melting down or locking my needs away deeply because it hurt too much to be in the room with them. Not wanting to see them if they weren't going to be met. Blaming everyone around me because I wanted it to be their problem, their fault... without realising I wasn't ready, able, or willing to show up for myself in the way I was demanding everyone else did.
I'm a coach, the author of Needy: How to Advocate for Your Needs and Reclaim Your Sovereignty, and the host of the Even Here Even Now podcast. I built this quiz because figuring out what you need is the hardest part. It's the doorway in. It's a path calling you home.
Start with your ONE need and learn how to tend to it in an utterly doable way. I know you're tired of holding it all, so I made this next step incredibly easy for you.
All you have to do is answer 13 simple questions.
YOU KNOW SOMETHING NEEDS TO CHANGE.
This is where you figure out what.
Free. 13 questions. A result you can act on today.