Focus, Energy Balance & Vibrational Relativity

When you find vibrational alignment with You, you personally thrive. You feel good; you look good; you have stamina; you have energy; you have balance; you have clarity; you have wit; you have abundance of all things that you consider to be good. You thrive in all ways when you come into Energy Balance with You. Vibrational Relativity – that’s what it’s all about.



At the idea of it, I can feel the strain of restriction pulling my head to my chest, a stance of shame. The idea of focus misinterpreted as a chastisement, as if before this moment I had been too lackadaisical or discombobulated. That in the mention of focus, what I hear is I need to rein myself in. But the focus that is called for here is the discipline of paying attention to what is yours to pay attention… and surrendering the rest.

You energetic balance here requires, initially, that you buy into the idea that you deserve to feel good in your life.

And also that “feeling good” is not the same as “happy all the time” – none of us are happy all the time. There is not a magical land where all hardship or stress is evaporated completely and will never exist again. Feeling good is about the approach to hardship, about choosing to believe that we are supported, always, by the world around us.

It begs of you to believe that you deserve the beauty and happiness and love that is all around you all of the time. That, in this life, your soul is chiefly concerned with the things that make you feel really good. That you are allowed to be selfish in prioritizing you own joy. That when you take care of yourself first instead of last, you best serve the world around you. That your divinity is reflected in the divinity of the natural world on this planet, a world that you belong to, even when it feels like you don’t belong anywhere.

That you are allowed to live this way.

In this life, you are autonomous in creating your own joy.

The focus here is on paying attention to your daily life, noticing the things that light you up, filling you with exhilaration and belonging, and the things that fill you with dread. It requires that you you know that your vibrational relativity has to do primarily with YOU – your heart, your spirit, the things that make you feel – and making choices that are in energetic integrity for you, meaning they are aligned with your own internal compass, your own determination of good and bad.

The secret equation here is doing more of the things that feel good and less of the things that make you feel bad. 

But, don’t we have to do things that feel bad?

I know that many of you believe that. I know that I believed that at many points in my life. I told myself that life was made up of things that just had to get done so that I could squeak in something good around the edges. But, I don’t believe that anymore. I am no longer willing to buy into the idea that there are things that I absolutely have to do.

Instead, I believe in choice. I believe that I am making choices all day long, every day. That I was and am choosing to continue living the way that I are living, choosing to remain in my complicated family entanglements, choosing to head in to work at the job that makes me feel anxious and inadequate. However, my choice extends to how I perceive a situation, as well.

You get to choose to do something that you might not really want to do, but to reframe how you think about it.

There are things that I lovingly do for my business that I would prefer not to do. There are times when I’ve made choices for the health and happiness of my family, that, if I were really honest, my heart wasn’t invested in. However, in those moments, I was also able to see how those choices supported the life that I did want.

You get to choose to enjoy something that isn’t very enjoyable. You get to choose to make it work, to make it fun, to bring your best self to it. You get to choose the “hard” choice, the one that you may not particularly want to prioritize, but you must recognize that in each and every moment you are exercising your ability to choose.

The focus that is being called for here is choosing to pay attention to the things that are working – the things that light you up, the moments of joy, the choices that you can make that impact the overall feeling and trajectory of your life.

This focus informs you that may not have the internal fortitude or desire to overhaul you life in entirety.

First, it’s exhausting to do so. Second, those sorts of major revamps often floods your receptors with excitement and the invitation of challenge, but ultimately leave you exhausted. Instead of “fixing your body in 30 days” or embarking on a “21 day to jumpstart your ambition,” the focus that your spirit aches for is the slow, conscious practice of exercising your choice each day.

This is the permanent overhaul – the devotion to honoring choice as our best tool for living well. 

The focus that is called for here is the reclamation of the minutes that make up your daily life, your reinvestment in the quality of the fabric that you are sewing together as you navigate your existence on this planet. There is discipline to this type of approach and patience. You are called to show up, not just once for a grand decree, but into the  mundane daily meetings and community demonstrations within the community of your physical, emotional, spiritual and energetic bodies. You are called to the focused state of receiving and interpreting information before making well-informed, intentional decisions.

You are being called to show up, repeatedly.

You are being called to show up, joyfully.

You are being called to choose how you want to be living.

That is your business, your responsibility. That is your soul directive.

Focus on that.

What do you need right now?


Figure out what you need + how to meet that need in a way that is deliciously DOABLE, sustainable, and kind. (I pinky promise.)